NOTE: the dress in the photo is not the dress I chose. Obvs.
I did it. I said the second best yes. A little time ago and in a whirlwind of a day, I said yes to the dress I will be marrying my best friend in ♥ While I can’t mention the details of the dress or my experience yet, I wanted to share a few little notes on my day and tips that could possibly help prepare you for the day you say your second best yes. I am sharing my advice not only based on my experience, but also inspired by the advice given to me by my wonderful bridal consultant.
Firstly, don’t be afraid to love every dress you try on. I’ll be honest, I am not the dewy-eyed type that brides are usually made of when it comes to dresses. My heart flutters for other aspects such as the little wedding day details that will symbolize Nathan and I, my first dance with my husband and choosing that perfect song, and the thought of walking towards the altar beside the first man I loved. The fact that I’ve been engaged for over two years and I just recently chose my wedding dress can attest for that. However, whether you are feverish about wedding dresses or not, don’t be afraid to love every dress you try one. I’ll make a bold statement and say falling in love with a dress isn’t the deciding factor. You may love every dress you try on or maybe a select few, but you will put on a dress that makes you feel like you. (I just unintentionally Dr.Seussed the heck out of that). The best way I can describe the moment is looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing the same you that you and your fiancé love, except the bridal version. That’s borderline confusing and lame, but it’s the best I can do 🙂 As I’m writing this, I’m reminded of the fact that while I went into this process sans the wedding dress cray-cray obsession, I left it feeling the indescribable worth of it all. It has nothing to do with the monetary value or the designer label-it has everything to do with every feeling you experience while wearing the dress.
Carrying on, I’ve seen many times on those wedding dress shows and in movies a bride-to-be having a total melt-down or bawling whether something good or something bad happens, but to my surprise I experienced neither of those. My experience was wonderfully calm, peaceful and of course full of love. After trying on x amount of dresses I actually stopped myself from continuing to bask in the bridal glory of just looking at myself in the mirror while standing in a wedding dress, because I knew that I had already tried on the dress I would be married in. That brings me to my second leaf of advice. It may feel utterly blissful to look at your bridal reflection wearing countless dresses, but don’t let it get the best of you, causing you to get overwhelmed and drown out the particular dress or dresses that resonated deeply with you. Also, don’t let yourself get caught in that “well I can’t have possibly tried on only x amount of dresses and already found the one.” It can happen. Let it happen.
My last tidbit is your crew. I think it is the tale as old as time, but I have to echo it. Keep your company small and precious to you. I have always known myself, what I want and what I am going to do–whole-heartedly and undoubtedly. That being said, I can still imagine how difficult it would have been to have one-too-many opinions floating around.
So that’s it for my mushiness! I have so many more absolutely incredible details that I am so excited to share with you…seriously, the day I picked my dress was a total whirlwind of a dream that I still have trouble believing happened. I have yet to come down from cloud nine. Obviously I have to stay hush-hush for now 😉
Please don’t hesitate to ask me any questions you may have right now, if I can help, I would love to. Email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) comment here or ask me on social media (@kristaperez).