In today’s Real Talk Friday series, it didn’t take long for me to think of what to write about today. While we all know life has it’s funny (and sometimes not so funny) ways of telling us we’re not in control, it’s been more recently that I’ve felt this. Today I’m sharing Real Talk: When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned.
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Let me preface by saying this: I’m not a planner. The only aspect in my life I’ve been religiously organized and plan-oriented with is my work. With everything else, I’m a fly by the seat of pants kind of gal. And I have to tell you, it’s worked out for me so far haha. I think this is mainly because I’m a very emotional person that gets pretty invested in stuff. So whether it’s a big deal or not, I try not to get too ahead of myself in life since I don’t want to get disappointed. Is that the way to go? I don’t know. But I’m in my mid-20’s and so far…so good!
Moving on. Wait, let me preface this again. Trust me when I say how little my feelings and thoughts seem compared to all of the many lives that aren’t going as planned recently. From all of the natural disasters, Hurricane Irma having gone through my own city, to all of the absolute terrors happening around the world. I’ll tell you myself, my misshaped plans are minuscule and dumb in relations to any of the real heartache going around. However, I learn from my little pooped parties in life. And that’s what I want to share today.
I’m supposed to be in Europe right now.
Nathan and I’s gift to each other for our One Year Anniversary (which is coming up) was a trip to two countries we’ve been dying to visit. While we had been feeling our hearts aching and nerves strengthening once the recent horrific incidents and attacks began happening in various cities across Europe, it wasn’t until the latest terrible incident on the London tube that we felt our decision was made for us. Some of our travel plans would’ve put us on the tube literally just a few days after this event.
We couldn’t fathom being as nervous and heartbroken for the city as we are and just wandering the streets, completely giddy and on a trip that was supposed to be happy. So we had to cancel our trip this past weekend. I can’t even tell you how sad that made us both, but even more so me. Because remember when I told you that when I invest in something I INVEST. Like full-hearted, so darn excited I think about it multiple times a day invest.
And remembered when I told you I never really plan things? I suppose the most planning I do (aside from work) is for travel purposes, but even that is usually just a couple months out and it’s not planning a One Year Anniversary trip for my husband and I to a country we’ve wanted to visit for the past 5 years and has been booked for 9 months. Yea. Next level bummed out here.
I also keep thinking about all of the world’s beauty and bustling, cultural cities…
that so many of us want to visit, but now because of such horrific things happening, we now might be too nervous to visit or government advises against it (which was actually one of our reasons we had to cancel as well). Or how the residents and locals of these cities are feeling themselves, with their beautiful cities being sadly targeted and tarnished by recent events. That thought makes me sad on a whole other level.
Oh, and on top of this, our travel booking/bookies are being so unaccommodating that it’s making the already crappy situation even worse. Buuuuut what are we going to do? Well, I’ll tell you what! For my own travel-loving heart and since I still have a major itch for an adventure, we’re scoping out destinations where we can plan another trip to. (Would love to hear suggestions!)
Also, almost immediately after we canceled, Nathan reminded me that we could now go to the Mumford & Sons concert here in Miami which we were going to miss due to our trip, so he bought us amazing tickets right away AND IT WAS AWESOME. They’re one of our favorite bands so that was a wonderful silver lining in this whole situation. Besides traveling, concerts are our favorite thing to experience together-we LOVE music.
So, that was my recent “When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned” scenario. And it stinks. And it makes me want to only book next-day flights and trips because my achy-breaky heart gets too excited for things. However, I know we made the right decision for us and we had the support of our family and friends too who thought it was a smart decision.
This experience was a nice reminder of how much Nathan and I are on the same page and wavelength. We usually are, but it felt good to make such a big decision together and knowing we both felt the same. It also reminded us that we could make the most out of a disappointing situation, as long as we had each other.
What have you learned from life not going as planned? Or maybe something similar has happened to you? I would love to hear and maybe gain some tips and perspective 🙂