Two weeks ago Nathan and I celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary and earlier in October we reached the 10 year mark together. It’s feels crazy to think we’ve been with each other for so many years. It feels like both an eternity and like it flew by all at the same time. It’s actually really hard for us to remember a time before “Krista and Nathan”…but we don’t mind that 🙂
I talked about what feels different and what doesn’t after being married in my 6 months of marriage post and a little on why I don’t share a lot on my personal life and marriage. But as I’m sure you’ve noticed lately with these Real Talk posts, I’m trying to be more open with you all since I get a lot of really great questions from you-and if anything I ever write can help just one person, then I’ll be a happy camper 🙂
So, let’s get into it!
1 Year of Married Bliss and the Questions that Come With
Our first year of marriage has been our most complex yet. Not because of our relationship, but because it’s been the year we’ve really put into play some serious goals we each have individually and together. One thing I’ve always loved about our relationship is how passionate Nathan and I have always been about our careers and professional goals.
One of the biggest attributes of our relationship is how we support each other’s dreams and personal goals. If we weren’t each other’s biggest cheerleaders I know we would both feel defeated before we even started anything, because our opinions and support mean so much to each other.
So I’m happy to report that in our first year of marriage and all of the goals set into place, we’ve sang to each other many times the song “Hey Mickey you’re so fine, you’re so fine you blow my mind!” except change the names to Nathan and Krista. I’m not joking! haha. We’re weirdos 🙂
Now onto the two questions that have come within the first year from everyone and their mother….
1.Did you change your last name? Are you going to? Why not?
Nope, I didn’t and I don’t know if I ever will. I’ve always done things because I want to do them, not because “it’s the thing to do”. (not trying to sound like a little punk, it’s just the truth! 🙊) I just don’t have any interest in changing my name. Not saying I won’t change my mind one day, but at the moment I don’t care about it. It’s as simple as that. I have one of the most common Spanish last names (especially living in Miami) and that doesn’t bother me either. Maybe it’s weird, but Krista Perez is my identity (obviously, literally ha) but also figuratively. I just feel good being Krista Perez.
I also like that I have my dad’s last name, since he’s pretty much my hero. Makes me happy. But like I said, who knows. Maybe one day I’ll wake up and feel differently.
In response to questions I’ve received on this: No, Nathan doesn’t care. No, I don’t really care about the whole having kids with the same last name thing. No, I don’t feel less married…this one deserves the eye roll emoji 🙄
Also, am I the only one that thinks it’s crazy that these are all questions still being asked? I SO respect anyone that chooses to change their last name. But it has nothing to do with changing their name and more because I respect people doing what they feel in their heart to do. As most of life’s decisions should be: because YOU wanted to do or not do something. Not because so-and-so gave you the stink eye about it 😉
2. Are you having kids?
I have two kids. Their names are Oliver and Ottis. They are my world. They don’t talk back to me and are always happy to see me. Just kidding! I mean these are all relevant points, but not my answer to this question. I don’t really get bothered by people’s curious (sometimes nosey) questions-ask away because I don’t mind replying “none of ya bees’ wax!” But some couples and women do and not only is that completely ok, but it should be respected too.
With those people’s feelings in mind, I wish everyone would stop asking married couples/women this question. I honestly don’t think I have ever asked anyone this question besides my closet friends/family with whom I talk about everything with. You never know if that’s a conversation someone is willing to have openly or is kept closer to their heart.
So that wraps it up on this Real Talk: 1 Year of Married Bliss and the Questions that Come With.
Hope you enjoyed my honesty and little bit of sass. Love ya guys!